My Religious Guilty Pleasures

Yesterday I magically found something called the Feminist Mormon Housewives Society which is a group of progressive Mormon housewives whose mission is to provide: “A safe place to be feminist and faithful.”

This isn’t a joke. These women are Mormon housewives who are feminist and progressive. They’re rethinking the way their Church talks about women and women’s roles in the home and the world.

I’ve only observed their discussions for a day and talked to a few of them, but they struggle with the same things that any mom’s and housewives struggle with. For example, one mom was feeling resentful over all the housework, cooking, and chauffeuring she had to do. The other wives (and a husband or two) chimed in and most of them had incredibly progressive ideas about what she could do to solve her problems. They were all thinking critically about what their Church told them, versus what worked and didn’t work.

I’m so intrigued by the community here. I’m also so intrigued because I know many Mormons and some of them hold very tightly to traditional gender roles. I even dated a Mormon who explained to me that I’d need to convert to Mormonism in order to marry him and I’d need to give up writing about sex, religion, and well, virtually everything I write about.

These fMh women are questioning gender roles and they’re encouraging their church to be more progressive. One woman posted a link to an LDS Basic Manual for Women: Developing Employment Skills.  The woman said that the church needed to step up and become more progressive–this isn’t the 50’s. I completely agree with her. It was intriguing to hear her say that.

I think what’s fascinating about the Internet is that it provides for many of us a community we may never have had living in our own cities, working at our jobs or going to school. The reason fMh Lisa started this community was because she didn’t have anyone she could talk to about certain issues. She was more liberal and progressive than many of the people she knew, so she turned to Google and typed in “liberal Mormon.” She then found a few blogs and after awhile decided to form a community specific to her own needs.

Blogging has done that for me–helped me form a community that’s specifically met my needs (and hopefully the needs of some of you). We’re a more progressive, liberal crowd here which is different from many of those who are recovering from Spiritual Abuse. Sometimes those other communities got too “Jesus-y” for me and I needed a place to be open and honest and candid without being judged or reprimanded. I’m interested in being me first and foremost and I don’t like a lot of the spiritual talk. And I hate being told what to do or what to think.

So cheers to Feminist Mormon Housewives! You’ve made my week. <3

7 thoughts on “My Religious Guilty Pleasures”

  1. Speaking of feminists, I met a girl last Friday through the internet who was a feminist. We went out for dinner and to the ballet. I didn’t quite know what to expect. I was actually kind of scared. We surprisingly clicked, although we come from very different places. We had some deep conversation (about church, the Bible, feminism), and also some silly conversations.

    1. We feminists are like other women, only more awesome.

      In all seriousness though, many men and women are feminist and may not label themselves as such. If you recognize that some treatment of women (and some ideologies) is abusive and oppressive, you’re probably feminist. Like today Saudi Arabia had their third election. Women weren’t allowed to vote. Feminists are interested in helping women get voters rights.

      The dinner and ballet sound amazing. What ballet did you see?

      1. The ballet was The Merry Widow.

        The term, feminist, has always left a bad taste in my mouth, but from her, I learned that I have always been supportive of it’s ideas. If I had been hearing “gender equality,” or “sexual equality,” I probably could have related my ideas a little bit more easily to the feminist-cause. I probably just get too caught up in the terminology, but now I know.

  2. How awesome! It’s great to hear of feminists in all religious traditions. Religions aren’t going to become more woman-friendly unless women (and men) work for change. So, good for fMh Lisa 🙂

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