The Feminist Yawn

For the past few years I’ve been a self-proclaimed radical feminist. I’ve read Bitch magazine, Ms. magazine, Jessica Valenti books and I’ve drawn pictures of pussies eating pussies.

It all started with the introduction to Mary Daly’s book “Beyond God the Father: Toward a Philosophy of Women’s Liberation” where I first heard this: “If God is male, then male is God” and it blew my mind. I’d just left a fundamentalist Christian cult where I’d been a reverend for seven years, but my entire role there was based on when and who I was going to marry and how quickly. So, of course, realizing that the male God was the centralized issue wrong with the world sort of blew my mind. She essentially summed up what I’d been thinking was wrong with the church for years.

After blogging about the loss of my faith and my feminist views, some women I knew looked up to me as a leader in the feminist community. I have written articles about reproductive health and religion and been asked to take leadership roles in state and nationwide feminist groups. Some of these groups, honestly, seemed to be driving one woman’s agenda or attempting to enlarge one or two people’s reputation not an overall goal of liberating oppressed people or increasing diversity within the movement, so I wasn’t interested in feeding that. The feminist circle just wasn’t doing it for me lately. I’d been a moderator on one of the larger groups on Facebook for women’s rights (and enjoyed it) and had been involved in a growing women’s group, which I later found to be full of growing scandal/greed. Some women had already written some powerful critiques of the movement, and as I read threads online, I realized this group and feminist leadership/followers were far from enlightened and wouldn’t change. In fact, most of the movement seemed to be ran by materially privileged white women and none of them listened to the women from other cultures. It seemed like the same old disunity of race, class and privileged that feminism had been fighting over for years…and still, no one was listening.

This is the feminism I see today.

It was time for me to start moving away because as I saw it, the amplified voices were only pushing their personal and political agendas.

I’ve recently identified myself as post-human, which I would explain quite simply as a theory based on sci-fi/futurology in which a person admits they are in disunity within him or herself (thus why humans act hypocritical, and why even my writing this is “disunified” or hypocritical) but continues to pursue intellectual knowledge and maintains objectivity as much as possible.
Our feminist dialogue isn’t objective and it’s not intellectually rigorous. (More on this later by a friend of mine who is doing fantastic research on the bias within feminist journalism.)

This has been illustrated by the internet gang bang that occurred recently with the Daniel Tosh he said/she said fiasco which erupted into a full scale tirade against men everywhere. bell hooks criticized “rape culture” and ample information can be found online that the rape culture is over exaggerated by misused or wrong statistics. Put that in your pipe and smoke it. Rape culture may be exaggerated…

Although I do not condone rape, no one was raped by Daniel Tosh…’s joke. End of argument for me. I like Tosh.0.

Some people, though, are very unhappy with my post-feminist rants. They think I should feel their disappointment. To which I say, fuck off.

4 thoughts on “The Feminist Yawn”

  1. I liked reading this. I don’t like feminism either. I think it can be destructive and divide the genders. Women need to be careful holding todays man responsible for the behaviours and actions of our fathers and grandfathers. I can understand the feminist movement and how it has accomplished rights for women but now I see statistics about boys and men not doing so well. As an example in my country 4 out of 5 suicides are men. If 4 out of 5 suicides were women something would be done. But these are only men you see so they can die no problems. To fight sexism with sexism doesn’t work and feminism only creates misogynists.
    I had a browse through your site and I’m convinced you’re a champ! Good luck to you Lisa.

  2. I’ve been a feminist for 43 years. I’ve not had the problems you outlined in the groups I’ve been in. These groups were diverse in age (from14 to 80+years). We worked with some success to be racially diverse. I would have liked more progress there, but living in a very racially polarized area, we did pretty good.

    I am so disheartened that I have so little in common with the “third” wave feminists.

    I miss the age diversity and wonder how younger feminists are managing without the wisdom and support from the previous generation that I had.

    I’ve had an online discussion with a young college student on a project she was working on with her male “gender studies” instructor to classify the different types of feminism. She started with saying she wanted to cover feminazis through the “third” wave. I pointed out that feminazi wasn’t a term used in feminism and was in fact coined by arch conservative and misogynist Rush Limbaugh,. I also explained some feminist ideas and authors which she thought were really “old” couching the term “old” as meaning no longer relevant. She changed the feminazis to misandrists which she insisted was an ancient word and she prided herself on her knowledge in this area. I had to explain that this word had been created recently (earliest known usage 1940) by men so they could have a word to throw around similar to misogynist. Spellchek doesn’t even recognize it as a word and, it’s only in the past year or so that it has made into dictionaries. Her paper improved with each draft and she did use some of my suggestions. I kept my end of communication cordial even when she referred to older less educated women feminists in her paper. Generally women my age don’t have degrees in Women’s, now called “gender”, studies. Since I lived the history and fought so that the next generation could pursue a a degree in Women’s studies, I’ve never seen the need to get a degree in that and majored in chemistry. Pushing the boundaries.

    I must admit, when I was in my twenties and studying 19th century and earlier feminists, I didn’t anticipate such a generation gap developing in the movement.

    1. Maybe it is an age gap, but I’m not sure. Many people I’ve spoken to are frustrated by the exlusionary feminism that’s going on today and how it’s sometimes taken over by personal agenda. To me, it feels a bit reminiscent of fundamentalist Christianity.

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