No Dating is a Higher Calling: Master’s Commission and Westboro Baptist Church Members Agree

Master’s Commission has a “No Dating” policy for First Year students, which in many groups extends to Second Year Students and Staff Members (at the discretion of the pastor’s in charge). I’ve had current and former Master’s Commission students argue with me about this “No Dating” policy, which I see as controlling and cult-like.

Master’s Commission sees the “No Dating” policy as a way of a young person putting away distractions to fulfill a higher calling. They argue that you can’t fully focus on God if you’re focusing on fulfilling your Earthly desires, or better yet, ‘How can you get to know God if you’re selfishly getting to know someone else at the same time?’

Dating is a distraction–in their eyes.

Sound familiar, former MC’s (and others who’ve been recovering from cults)?

What’s eerily familiar is watching this video, where WBC members allowed a reporter an inside look at their compound. Take a particularly close look at the young women, who engage with the reporter about whether or not they have boyfriends. They state that they don’t and when asked, they say that “that’s not what we’re about in this life…we’re not about serving ourself” and “it’s a temptation that’s not needed and takes up time that we just don’t have.”

Sound familiar Master’s Commission? A horrific comparison, I know. Sadly, it’s true from my experience that many Master’s Commission students and Master’s Commission Directors speak just like these young women regarding dating.

Inside Westboro Baptist Church

3 thoughts on “No Dating is a Higher Calling: Master’s Commission and Westboro Baptist Church Members Agree”

  1. Yes, I often have a hard time concentrating on God while pooping, eating, and bathing….. I also try not to listen to music, exercise, take up hobbies, or learn new things. They should be taught how important dating is (the importance of having interest and relating to another human)… not told it’s a distraction. *hmm. I ranted a little* sowry.

  2. As far as the dating issue goes, here we are considering two groups toward the fundamentalist side of the spectrum… who in some ways lead young people into a “no dating stance.” I do believe anybody who is young is free to make that choice if they wish BTW, but think it is obvious that when cult-like groups herd kids en mass toward this stance that certain will inevitably and unfortunately get hurt. It is also my experience that some who hold to this policy while within the group will mistakenly think that their adherence to the policy ,makes them somebody (puffed up).

    Will some people who go though these groups come out hurting, mixed up, and doubting themselves as pertaining to healthy relationships?…Reality says YES!

    Will organizational elitism hinging on keeping these standards that ARE NOT COMMANDED in the scriptures but available as a choice mess with many peoples’ heads, especially when the elite realize that these “commandments” are “not commandments” and that their sense of elitism was bogus? Historical narrative says YES!

    Will some be hurt by recalling all the more subtle persuasions that they later realize went into causing them to make these commitments, and after the fact conclude they were manipulated and misled? YES indeed!

    But other than the rampant false sense of elitism usually leading to disillusionment, depression, confusion, or self-righteousness these two groups seem to be doing ok, right? (BTW, That was sarcasm.)

  3. Hmm…I do see the point, although I think that refraining from dating the first year is healthy. Many students come in who have gone through unhealthy relationships and are still struggling with them as they come in. They just need some time to take for themselves, to see clearly again. It’s the same reason why they must stay with a home opener, to get away from family and the comforts of home. It’s all about being uncomfortable. Now, I do see the point, and I’ve experienced people going too far with the whole dating thing, but at my church, Christian Worship Center (CWC Bay Area), it’s more about teaching the healthy way to date. They are very open about intimacy, sex, etc. as well as how to build a godly relationship. I think it was imperative that I wasn’t allowed to date my first year. The first year is about being broken down, so you can be built back up. Once I was completely broken, and learned to give my heart to God first, I was able to date and be in a healthy relationship…

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