This just in: I’m bitter. Again. Blah, Blah, Blah.

This email was sent to me from Kelli, who titled the subject Broken Heart. Read on for more magic. Yawn.

 

Hello Lisa,
You do not know me as I do not know you personally. I was wondering around on you tube today and came across your video “Master’s Commision Rant.” I was curious, so I watched. I’m not surprised by anything you said. I have herd many people who left a mc with the same attitude. I’m must say that you sound bitter. I was in masters commission for 3 amazing years. I was not raised in church. I started walking myself to church at age 8 by myself. I was not raised in a Christian home, so I made the choice to believe in Jesus Christ and have him be the father and savior in my life. I started thinking for myself at a very early age because I had parents who left me no choice to think any other way.
I am so very sorry that you had this experience as well as many other students. However, masters commission is not intended for everyone. I have become great friends with the funded and many of the staff that have been there from the beginning and I know first hand that it is not intended for everyone. I had a fanominal experience and ministered to thousands of people. I know many people who spent one year in mc to grow their spiritual self and “get their self control” under control before they went to a university. Those people lead great lives and have stable families. They are successful and thank God everyday for that mc that helped them. I also know hundreds of alumni, including myself, that go on do ministry around the world. As far as the covenant for first years, it’s not intended to put a chain around your neck. It’s there, I you choose to do so, to have you focus on God for 9months rather than the distractions that come along with dating. Let’s face it, as for me , a disciple of Jesus Christ, if a man can not be completely focused on the one who  created him for 9 months out of his entire life, then how could he ever be faithful to me as his wife for the next 50-75 years of his life? I am so blessed to say that I have married a great man of God with morals and values that I believe that he could have never had without that covenant. I am in no way saying that people who don’t make 9month covenants with God can’t have them, I’m simply saying the if the opportunity is placed before you and you can handle it, then you can not handle future covenants.
I just don’t understand why you have made your bitterness into a business. You said in one of your comments on your video that a community of people need to come together…..do realize what you are doing? You are promoting a community of unforgiveness and bitterness. Why focus on the negative? What a terrible way to live. It seems as though you are the one that is hurting yourself by ranting on about the wrong that apparently happens to you. Why live in offense instead a life full of joy and freedom? Everyone gets hurt, it’s how you deal with it that developes you…..you obviously are living in the negative. Move on…. Do you really think that at the end of your life the world is going to remember you for doing good? Or will they remember you for contributing to the bitterness, anger, and unforgiveness? It seems as though your purpose in life is to down religions and be negative…..wow….I couldn’t imagine living in such negativity. I feel sorry for you and hope that you find purpose in your life and stop living a life that is devoted to bashing everyone else’s lives….

It’s unfortunate that Master’s Commission hasn’t taught Kelli how to use spell check. Thanks girl.

In response, I didn’t cuss her out. I simply said, I don’t support abusive groups and I hope you will do your part to be socially and ethically responsible with those you deal with, too. 

#mycultlife #hatemail #dumbasses #bitteragain #yawn

Thank You for Your Survey Answers (Cult & Destructive Ministries Survey)

I recently started working on a story about one girl in particular who reached out to me. She wanted to do a story about her group with some type of media coverage with similar intentions as I had when first starting this blog. I wanted people to know sort of the unscripted version, the unpretty side of my group. What went on behind the scenes and why no one talked about it. She had valid reasons in sharing her story, so we settled on doing a story for my blog as a starting point with discussion about how to reach out to larger media organizations with the story. Stories like these take a lot of research and fact checking on my end because abusive groups are great at covering up their abuse and attempt to discredit the victims in any way they can. Careful research and analysis is required in these stories.

Earlier in the week, I shared a Cult & Destructive Ministries survey with you all. I’m so excited about this. I’ll tell you why.

I’ve been getting emails from people over the past year and a half (since I started blogging) about their group and some of their stories. Some of you have amazing stories and they have been very heartbreaking and gut wrenching. To be quite honest, I went to hide after reading some of them. I cried. But I wasn’t sure if I could do anything to help. Each case is unique and each person is seeking something different by their email to me. Some, it seems, desire professional guidance to help them navigate through the tough road they have ahead. I am not a professional therapist and I have not found a professional I feel is qualified to help (who has the time). I do not endorse Christian therapists in aiding the recovery of cult survivors. Yet, not every secular therapist is a good fit for someone else. So, I’ve been at a loss on how to help the growing problem I see within my Inbox.

The gears have started turning this week, though, and I think I’m onto something that may begin to help.

I recently started working on a story about one girl in particular who reached out to me. She wanted to do a story about her group with some type of media coverage with similar intentions as I had when first starting this blog. I wanted people to know sort of the unscripted version, the unpretty side of my group. What went on behind the scenes and why no one talked about it. She had valid reasons in sharing her story, so we settled on doing a story for my blog as a starting point with discussion about how to reach out to larger media organizations with the story. I have some points of contact that I’m interested in sharing the story with but stories like these take a lot of research and fact checking on my end because abusive groups are great at covering up their abuse and attempt to discredit the victims in any way they can. Careful research and analysis is required in these stories.

After working with this girl, I then started thinking about all of you and I’m hoping with the responses I’ve received to the survey above, I can work on more stories that will shed the light on particularly abusive groups and spiritual leaders. My focus is on educating people about these groups and their traits and encouraging them to look for certain signs of abuse. Whether a group is a cult or not isn’t exactly my focus. My focus is on the psychological and physical trauma that people are living with, as a result of being oppressed by certain ideologies.

I hope to be in contact with some of you over the next few months to get quotes and some more avenues for research. For now, the information in the surveys will serve as a guide for research into these groups and a starting point for me. As I told my new friend, the girl I’m interviewing at the moment, I love to research. It’s my hobby. I’m excited about the GOOD that will come of it. 🙂

I love you all,

Lisa